Healthy, romantic relationships aren’t always easy to come by, however. They can take tons of time and energy to make them work. Perhaps you are experiencing doubt or frustration in your current relationship, or maybe you’re afraid to seek romance in the first place. These struggles are very real, but there are ways to face them.
Denying your need and desire to either seek out a healthy relationship or improve on one you already have is not healthy. In fact, people who fail in healthy relationships often fall into a state of being withdrawn, which leads them to feel unwanted and unloved.
The question you must ask yourself is this: why do you have difficulty with romantic relationships? The truth is, there may be several reasons why you’re experiencing difficulty. But, regardless of your current relationship status, it is important that you discover and explore the issues that are holding you back.
You find yourself wanting to be alone more often.
You are easily annoyed or irritated by others.
You become stressed with the idea of meeting someone new.
You are dismayed by the prospect of dating.
You don’t know how to approach a romantic interest.
You find yourself obsessing over your relationship.
You dive into your work to avoid your relationship.
You close yourself off from your significant other.
You expect your relationship to end at some point.
You take action to sabotage your relationship.
It would be nice if we could say that if you can get past a single obstacle, you’ll magically be able to cultivate or maintain a romantic relationship. Unfortunately, this is not the case. Your problem with relationships most likely stems from multiple avenues – but they can all be worked on. Whether you go it alone or with your current partner, professional therapy can help you make great strides toward a healthy relationship.